May 2011
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you forget it in people
Messed around with some new brushes. No idea if I am happy with this, but just playing around.
Words are taken from the Broken Social Scene album of the same name.
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December 2010
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rejection therapy day 19 -december 18th
Due to the increased snowfall, I went for a walk out and about to see what everything looked like sprinkled with icing sugar. I was walking next to a couple dragging their son along in a sledge. Rather than just walking on and passing them silently, I decided to say hello and they gave me a greeting back, just like a real person. Had a chat with them about sledging and frozen beer. Odd. Failed...
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rejection therapy day 19 - december 17th
I asked if I could give a hand with some friends who run a magazine I write for since they moving office…they said yes and I spent the day hauling boxes and shifting shelves. Great fun though as it turned into a sort of Christmas party involving lunchtime pints and fish a chips. Nom. Failed Rejection Their new office will also be above a venue which they will be hopefully organising some gig...
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rejection therapy day 18 -december 16th
I have really not been making the effort the past few days, but this is just a game and other things have been more pressing on my mind.
One thing I will say though, is that with all the crap that sent me on a downward spiral yesterday, I don’t think I would have ended up in as good a mood at the end of today if it wasn’t for my previous efforts in Rejection Therapy. Doing this project...
rejection therapy day 16 -december 14th & day 17...
I have not been updating my rejection therapy as much recently because the past couple of days have been pretty terrible! Day 16th was spent doing some work which turned out to be a waste of time; and Day 17 involved a whole series of events which were all particularly shit.
I only write this here to just get it out of my mind and not burden any others with it. Part of rejection therapy is...
elomar asked: I don't have a question to ask, sorry :(
I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed your last post. I'm following the rejection therapy series, and this last post put me thinking about how my own life if going... In a world where everything pushes you to be so competitive and "successful," it's a relief to see somebody remind me that all we can be even...
I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed your last post. I'm following the rejection therapy series, and this last post put me thinking about how my own life if going... In a world where everything pushes you to be so competitive and "successful," it's a relief to see somebody remind me that all we can be even...
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rejection therapy day 15 -december 13th
Those who are paying attention, and I would be surprised if there were any of you, will have noticed I had no post yesterday. Unfortunately I was just too busy getting a job application ready for a deadline and then finishing some design work for today. This meant I spent the day in front of my computer and while I loathed this it helped me ponder a few things in comparison to what happened...
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Street Portrait Project #5
The is Katie, who is Brendan’s (Street Portrait #3) daughter and is also a photographer. Cheers to Katie.
For an explanation of Rejection Therapy see this post
For an explanation of Street Portrait Project see this post
My Flickr
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rejection therapy day 13 -december 11th
Went to get my hair cut today as it really was getting too long and I was getting tired of being mistaken for some kind of hermit. I have never been that bothered about my hair, usually just getting it shaved off or leaving it till it grows way too long and starts to cause problems with my vision. So when the hairdresser asked the expected question “What do you want done?” the smile...
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rejection therapy day 12 -december 10th
Today, I am pretty pleased to say, was another cracker of a day…so unfortunately you have a long post on your hands.
First off, I am finding that the Street Portrait Project is yielding very few rejections (by that, I mean none). Everyone is far too nice and welcoming, willing to take a couple of minutes out of their lives to chat and have their photos taken. I have also started to give out...
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rejection therapy day 11 -december 9th
“You’re going to go out and start a fight with a total stranger…You’re gonna start a fight…and you’re gonna lose.”
Tyler Durden, Fight Club
I may not have been looking for a fight today, but the sentiment was the same. I was looking to lose. I thought my Street Portrait Project was a way of getting instant rejections, but unfortunately for me it seems...
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rejection therapy day 10 -december 8th
No rejection today, but I feel the best since I have started the therapy. Allow me to rant…
I wanted to make up for yesterdays chickening out of yesterday’s street photography and not taking some street portraits, I thought I would try again today. Once again, I froze. I kept seeing people and thinking “they would be perfect” and then do nothing as they past. I walked up...
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rejection therapy day 9 - december 7th
“I think it is high time I lived up to my potential, don’t you?”
This is what I told myself (don’t worry, not out loud) while sitting in a coffee bar in Birmingham. I had just been wondering around looking to take street portraits of people. After convincing myself that “that person didn’t look right” or “they look in a hurry” I finally gave up...
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Rejection therapy day 8 -december 6th
I have been looking to becoming a Barista for a little while and, while it is a job I am sure I would enjoy doing, I have been a little hesitant to pursue the job. I have left a few days than I should in calling back the cafe and not been in hot pursuit of the opportunity. While there is lots about the job I think I would enjoy (the coffee, the people, the environment), what has kept me back is...
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Rejection therapy day 7 - december 5th
Not a great day to be honest, for more some personal reasons, but I did not feel like putting myself out too much.
My one triumph was with a guy who I have trained in the martial art of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu with for a long time but never really spoken to or got to know. I was aware that he is a far superior photographer to myself, so when I saw he had his camera with him I thought I would break the...
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Rejection therapy Day 6 -december 4th
I asked a magazine if they wanted to use my photos, they said yes Failed Rejection
I asked a fairly well known martial arts website if they wanted some writing done for the UK scene, they said yes. Failed Rejection
I asked a girl who I am trying to win back the affections of (I know, the poor girl) if she wanted to meet up for a meal this week. She said no. Rejected.
Much as I was looking forward...
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Rejection therapy Day 5 - December 3rd
I offered to take some photos and do some filming of a seminar…they said yes! Failed Rejection
I asked one of my editors, who I have written a few things for but never a feature, if she would be interested in me writing a longer article. She said yes! Failed Rejection
I then upped the anti with the same editor and told her about an artist I know doing a show and if she wanted a feature on...
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Rejection therapy Day 4 - December 2nd
Pretty disappointing day in rejection therapy terms, but that is due to some unforeseen problems.
The one thing I did manage to do is ask an editor who I used to write for, but had not spoken to in a while, if he wanted me to write for the magazine again…considering last time we spoke wasn’t on the greatest of terms. He said he would think about it. Partial Rejection
…then I...
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Rejection therapy Day 3 - December 1st
I had recently sent in my CV for a job at a coffee bar and I heard some good feedback last week…but I had not heard back in some time. So I rang up today asking if anything was happening and I was in town today so I could come in for a chat. The manager said to call back Friday as he was out in the afternoon. Partial Rejection
…but wait, there is more to this story…
Since I was...
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“When you work on your own projects, failure is awesome. When you realise you...”
– Jeffrey Kalmikoff and Jake Nickell These two created the website Threadless and said this while giving a speech at 99%
Check out the full video from which the quote was taken here
Found this relevant to my rejection therapy and hope you find it interesting too.
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Rejection therapy Day 2 - November 30th
I saw an advertisement for a job I was interested in, but the deadline was today. I asked if they could extend if for me. They said yes! Failed Rejection
I asked a professional photographer, who is busy as hell, to meet up for coffee so I could pick his brain about how to go about becoming a better photographer. He said he has to wait until he is less busy. Partial Rejection
I was asked whether I...
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Rejection Therapy Day 1 - November 29th 2010
I have been chatting with an amazing young lady who, unfortunately for her, I am trying to gain the interests of. I am aware she is already has plans for some time in this weekend, but I am not sure when, so I ask her if she wants to meet up at some point if she is free at any point. She says that the plans are with her parents who are visiting, so she will not be able to spend any time with me...
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Rejection therapy - an introduction
I have decided to become a reject. I want to be rejected. This questionable shift in my sanity is thanks to Jason Cowlely and his Rejection Therapy. The idea is that, for 30 days, you look for a away to get rejected each day. Rejection equals success.
The idea, as explained by former Rejection Therapy practitioner Jason Shen is to “ reduce the fear and pain felt around rejection, encourage...
October 2010
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The past and the future of sex
The history of what is accepted in sex is interesting to consider. In the supposed orgies of ancient Rome, did they care if the girl came or did the men care whether they jizzed on the girls face or breasts? Did women have the same high expectations of men back then and as judged for the performances between the sheets as they are now?
Push the time machine forward to a more recent time and you...
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A sort of manifestio
I slapped the newspaper down as I threw myself onto the bus seat creaked under the force. I stared out the window and sat frozen, full of anger. I had just received my A-Level results. I was supposed to get three As. I got three Bs. I thought about ways that I could correct this, or how something must have gone wrong; I just knew this wasn’t right.
I turned my attention to the newspaper, the...
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Silence...
Sometimes I head to places on my own and it gets so quiet that I can only hear myself think, and that voice in my head tells me I should be with people somewhere else.
