The past and the future of sex
The history of what is accepted in sex is interesting to consider. In the supposed orgies of ancient Rome, did they care if the girl came or did the men care whether they jizzed on the girls face or breasts? Did women have the same high expectations of men back then and as judged for the performances between the sheets as they are now?
Push the time machine forward to a more recent time and you have to wonder about the expectations of sex of your grandparents (consider it, please don’t picture it.) I should be more specific about grandparents - let’s say couples who had sex before the 70s. Did a woman in the year 1951 want a man who was going to take charge and hold her down till she came and did the man get bored if the girl didn’t deepthroated and gave good head? When did there become a measurement of what constituted a good blowjob?
I, with absolutely so research to support this, think that sex changes due to the transmission of information. So, taking the modern example as information through radio, television, print and now the internet becomes more spread so does different approaches to sex. Pornography as been around for as long as man got some sort of coloured substance and smudged an image of some boobs on a wall; but, like all things, the more we see of something the more we become desensitised to it and our tastes become more refined.
So in the post-war fifties, sex was common, as babies were still being popped out, but talk about it was scarce because resources were thin. Sure, the boys out on the front line got a few saucy pin up pictures, but they were few and far between. Now if you pretty much search for anything in the Google-machine there will be some sort of web page about a person’s sexual fetish, no matter how random your search terms are. So the more porn we see, the more we want to up the anti. For instance, do you think there are tribesman in Africa, in some tiny hut with, who has a need to tie his lover down and administer an enema while wearing a soldier’s uniform? No, but it’s because we have been exposed to the possibility of it that some may see that as a fantasy.
So this makes me think about the future. Due to the freedom of shared private time filth over the net, it is pretty common place for teenagers at the back of buses to swap mobile phone videos of women having sex with dogs or bukkake scenes. A child can log onto Chatroulette and see a dozen old man penises in a few minutes. So when these younguns grow up, what will their standards be?
I see one of the causes of teenage pregnancies being because people know more about sex and the expectations are now becoming higher the younger you are. When I was their age I was lucky if I got a hand in a bra, let alone a bit of adult cheeky fun time.
Let me make it clear that I am not against fetishes, people are free to have them and I have my own like everyone else. What they are is between only me and a few websites. I just wonder how this exposure of of younger and younger people to pornographic material will change the way people view relationships and even the levels of equality between genders.
So what will the next generations, or my unborn kids be into? I have no idea and don’t think I could fathom what they will see in their early age… I think expectations are high enough now so I don’t I really want to know.